Ms. Tigger and I on the happiest day...
Like A Moth To A Flame
Why is it that we, as humans, always long for the things that are unavailable to us? We long for love that we can’t have. We long for bigger homes and better cars. We long to be more desirable. Some of us will go to the extremes to make our appearance more “desirable”. Some of us even long for a better group of friends. Why do we do this to ourselves? How do you know when to stop longing and settle for what is available to you?
I have been known to want an unattainable love a time or two in my life. (Haven’t we all?) I find that I’m currently longing for the unattainable; I usually am, I’ve been doing this all of my life. Why are we so attracted to the things that are so very hard to attain? If I knew this answer; my life would be much easier. I guess that somewhere in the back of my mind that I’m always hoping for the unattainable to become attainable to me. (Don’t we all do this at one point or another?)
Lately I feel that I should settle for what is attainable. It may not be exactly what I want, but it can result in companionship. No one wants to go through life alone. I’m constantly haunted by the thought that I might make a big
mistake along the way. What if I do? How will I know? I guess that there are no guarantees in life. That is why we collect our experiences and do the best we can to learn from them.
Sometimes we long for things that are available. (Things like cars, homes, beauty, etc.) You can have any of these things for the correct amount of money. You can save your money to buy your dream house or your dream car. To me, it seems that they would mean more to you since you had to work so hard to attain them. This should give you a much better appreciation for the once unavailable that has now become available to you.
Not happy with your body? Save your money and change it. If you are like me and have small breasts, you could get implants and make then just about ANY
size you’d like. (I’ve been told several times that I should make this investment. I’ve even had someone offer to buy them for me.) Uh, NO thank you! In this day and age we can even buy ourselves a “new face”. You can get a new nose, new eyes, lips, cheeks; the works.
It seems to me, that there are sooo unhappy with their looks. Maybe they are trying to cover up something that has made them unhappy on the inside. Maybe all of these “so called” beautifully surgically enhanced people are just the ones that are in love with the “unattainable”. I can think of many other ways to try and feel better about this. (Hey, I’d much rather go on a shopping spree than walk around looking like a “Pamela Anderson wannabe!")
All in all, we want what we can’t have. If everything that we wanted in life were available to us; where would the challenge be? Where are the lessons learned from these life experiences? Would the unavailable be so appealing if it were available?